By Auli Ofstad Introduction to the Cowgirl Position
Cowgirl is arguably the most iconic ‘girl on top’ sex position. It’s straightforward to execute, as demonstrated in the picture below. If you’re new to being on top, Cowgirl is a perfect starting point, and you can easily transition to other positions from our guide. The beauty of Cowgirl lies in the fact that you take control, which can be a thrilling change if your partner typically leads.
How to Perform the Cowgirl Position
This position is quite simple. Your partner lies on his back while you straddle him with your legs on either side of his waist, your knees on the bed. You can place your hands on his chest, shoulders, or the bed for balance, or rest them on your thighs.
While the man doesn’t need to do much in Cowgirl, participation enhances the experience. He can thrust upwards, gyrate his hips, or even do both to stimulate you. He can also assist by placing his hands under your hips, helping with the motion, and potentially incorporating some anal play.
Benefits and Techniques
Cowgirl is excellent for those who enjoy taking charge during intimate moments. It also facilitates the possibility of achieving simultaneous orgasms. You can bounce on your partner or rock your body back and forth for clitoral stimulation. Think of it as grinding against his pubic bone, or try combining both movements.
Changing the angle of penetration is easy by leaning forward or backward. If you tend to lean back, use your hands for additional support.
Tips for Confidence and Enjoyment
- It’s normal to feel self-conscious at first. To ease into it, consider dimming the lights. Some find leaning towards their partner’s face comforting and intimate.
- Flexibility isn’t a requirement, but helps if you’re leaning back frequently.
- Adjust your position by moving your hips and shifting your body angle until you find what feels best.
- Many women enjoy grinding for clitoral stimulation, finding it preferable to just bouncing. Your partner can enhance this by forming a “Spock” symbol with his hand for added sensation.
- Remember, even if your partner doesn’t get as much out of this position, your pleasure is equally important. Sex is about mutual enjoyment.
Variations of the Cowgirl Position
Several variations of the Cowgirl position can offer different experiences:
- Reverse Cowgirl: Face away from your partner for a different angle.
- Man Missionary: Lean down more over your partner.
- Asian Cowgirl: Plant your feet on the bed and bend your knees.
- Corner Cowgirl: Try this with your partner at the bed’s edge.
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Personal Insights
Personally, I find Cowgirl enjoyable because it allows my partner to take charge. However, not everyone shares this sentiment, which is entirely normal. Preferences vary, and some may not enjoy Cowgirl due to confidence issues, a preference for feeling submissive, or simply not finding it pleasurable compared to other positions.
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